|
|
 |
Thinking of your partner, parent, or child that may be emotionally or verbally abusive toward you, ask yourself the following questions about the relative's behavior. |
|
|
|
|
1. |
Do they threaten or intimidate to get you to comply? |
|
|
|
2. |
Do they destroy or threaten to destroy your personal property and possessions? |
|
|
|
3. |
Are they violent toward a pet or an object (a wall, furniture, etc.)? |
|
|
|
4. |
Do they yell or scream? |
|
|
|
5. |
Do they call you names? |
|
|
|
6. |
Do you feel constantly harassed by them? |
|
|
|
7. |
Do they embarrass you, make fun of you, or mock you, either alone, in public, or in front of family or friends? |
|
|
|
8. |
Do they criticize or minimize your goals and accomplishments? |
|
|
|
9. |
Is it obvious they do not trust your decision-making? |
|
|
|
10. |
Do they tell you that you are worthless without him or her? |
|
|
|
11. |
Are they overly possessive to the point of isolating you from friends and family? |
|
|
|
12. |
Do they often check up on you to make sure you are home or where you said you would be? |
|
|
|
13. |
Do they say hurtful things while under the influence of drugs or alcohol, then blame the drugs or alcohol for saying them? |
|
|
|
14. |
Do they blame you for how he or she acts or feels? |
|
|
|
15. |
Do they abandon you after a fight or make you stay after a fight in order to "teach you a lesson"? |
|
|
|
16. |
Do they make you feel there is no way out of the relationship? |
|
| Total 'Yes' |
|
|
(out of 16 possible) |
|
| Interpretation |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|